Wellness Within Blog
So, is it ok to worry? I think a better question is, how much should you worry? It’s okay, even normal, to be concerned and to stay aware of the situation.
We can also learn from habits of animals. Animals mimic times to eat and sleep, times to work and times to play, and demonstrate the joy of a good stretch. Lately I’ve been observing rules for winter self-care from my dog.
Practicing pause first thing in the morning might offer clear intention for how to move throughout your day. Practicing pause midday might offer data that energizing or grounding is needed. Practicing pause before bed might complete the day by settling gratitude in your heart.
“The changes we dread most may contain our salvation.” - Barbara Kingsolver, Small Wonder Change gets a bad rap. But change can be...
When we help others, we experience a “helper’s high,” as endorphins are released in our brain, leading to a euphoric state. The “warm fuzzies” we get come from the release of oxytocin, the same hormone that is released by lactating mothers. Compassion endorphins don’t just feel good, they do good in the body.
Compassion is the ability to show empathy, love, and concern to people who are in difficulty, and self-compassion is simply the ability to direct these same emotions within, and accept oneself, particularly in the face of failure.
The next time I catch myself dedicating time to anticipating all the potential criticism I might receive from the presentation at work, I can prepare the presentation instead. And rather than obsess about my child’s future, I can make time to connect with them in an activity today.
When a little one falls, and scrapes a knee, a caregiver often offers a band-aid. Suddenly, their tears are soothed. It’s not the bandage that heals, but the action of seeing and supporting the wound. It’s the space that the caregiver holds. In the same way, when a friend is suffering emotionally, the “right words” aren’t nearly as important as a listening ear and presence. Carl Jung supported such a stance when he wrote, “Please remember, it is what you are that heals, not what you know.”
We do things today that directly affect our basic human reflexes and actually shrink our field of vision. Whether it’s obsessing about a problem or hyperfocusing on our phone, our field of vision, posture and overall health is affected.
It’s Mental Health Awareness Month and it’s time we talk specifically about how to be a positive support when someone in your life is affected by suicide.